Each of us is a link in a chain spanning countless generations. It is not surprising that at times we are “paying off the debts” of our ancestors by reliving their lives’ patterns. What unconscious forces compel us to repeat the joyful and the traumatic events of our hidden family histories? This workshop will explore our profound, never-ending relationship to our past through the popular Family Constellations TM method developed by the German philosopher-psychologist Bert Hellinger.The goal of the Family Constellation approach is to gain insight into the secrets of our family history. This method teaches us how to unravel the skein of our family past, brings to light interconnections across generations, and helps us break out of the unconscious cycle of our family history that may keep us from reaching our true potential and experiencing real happiness.
The Family Constellation method effectively addresses:
business and financial difficulties
bodily pain and illness
habitual emotional and behavioral patterns
When we have unresolved issues with our family of origin, weunconsciously apply them to our new relationships with; partners,children, friends, and co-workers. Family Constellation is a great tool torecognize and resolve these entanglements, in order to move towards more healthy andauthentic relationships.
Problems with children.
One of the basic concepts in a Family constellation is that when onemember of a Family system is excluded from a system theungrounded or destabilized energy finds a younger member of the family field, and makeshim/her recreate patterns which belonged to the previous generation.The younger member of the family unconsciously repeats these patternseven if they don’t serve his/her best interests or desires, and provokes conflicts in his/herlife. My entrance to the world of family constellation was though mychallenges with my daughter. I made a decision to studyconstellation when I saw how fast my daughter made progressafter a constellation I made for my family system. I am eager to helpother parents resolve negative energies within their family field and clear these energies for theyounger generations.
Diseases and addiction recovery.
Bodily diseases and addictions always multi-level issues. In thesecases healing should can from multiple sources; western andintegrative medicine , psychotherapy, or energy work. But from thefamily/system constellations paradigm, these problems always haveroots in the family system. Family constellation brings awarenessto patterns that have been passed from generation to generation. Italso helps to open new sources of love and life energy, and promotehealing for the highest good.
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My Family Constellation practice is growing. This is the third Constellation
seminar I am leading during February. This is actually a record for me.
I believe that the Family Constellation practice is important for our community. I
work mostly with emigrants from former Soviet Union and Eastern European countries.
My clients came from Russia, Ukraine, Belorussia, Kazakhstan, Poland, Baltic
Republics, and others. Their parents and grandparent lived through wars, revolutions
and Stalin’s oppressive regime. My generation is the first generation which wasn’t
exposed to those terrible traumas. The two or three generations before us lived with
constant pain of losing the people they love and their possessions. The generational
trauma our community holds is still in the atmosphere of our families. It gives us
strength, resilience, and survival drive, but takes out joy, health, intimacy and creativity.
The Family Constellation is a great tool to help the family system release the pain and
tension coming from a heavy past.
What are the common requests by people who come to a Constellation?
- I am really ready to move to a new career or to start a new business, but
something is keeping me from taking that step.
- I have a lot of insecurities about money.
- We have certain health issues, which repeat through the generations in our
- I have divorced my husband a while ago and we still have a lot of tensions
between us, now I feel this tension is rising between me and my older son as well.
- I am looking to find my power in society and be successful. I don’t have a good
relationship with my father - he left us when I was a child.
- I often feel sad and irritated in my mother’s presence.
- I can’t relate to one of my kids. We are incompatible.
- I recently lost the person I dearly loved and I don’t have the energy to move
People who participate in a Constellation usually get more clarity and peace
about the questions and problems they bring to the group. We often observe a strong
energy shift after the Constellation. I have seen many cases when a single constellation
can bring a big improvement and sometimes a resolution for the presented situation.
I hear a lot of positive feedback from returning clients. Here are some examples:
- After the constellation my teenage daughter’s anger diminished, and now she is
improving her relationship with her father.
- My panic attacks are gone. For the first time in my life I started to feel supported
by my family.
- My irritation with my daughter is gone. I understand her much better now, I just
see her differently.
- I have more energy after the seminar and I am making strong steps toward
working on my health problems.
- For the first time in my life I enjoyed being with my mother and felt connected to
her on a human level, rather than being caught up in a mutual guilt trip.
- My father wrote to me after 10 years of silence.
- I suddenly have much more energy to put into my career. My fear of failure is
- I was able to let go of my past traumatic relationship and a new partner has come
into my life.
I work in our community on many levels now, with adults, teens and with groups.
I strongly feel this practice can help to build better relationships and to ease life
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Family Constellation Resources
Bert Hellinger: www.hellinger.com
Systemic Family Solutions (Sheila Sanders): http://www.systemicfamilysolutions.com/index.php
International Systemic Constellations Association: http://www.isca-network.org
Books (on Amazon)
Family Constellations: A Practical Guide to Uncovering the Origins of Family Conflict
I Carry Your Heart in My Heart. Family Constellations in Prison
The River Never Looks Back: Historical and Practical Foundations of Bert Hellinger's Family Constellations.
Human Systems Institute (numerous articles)
Organizational Constellations (numerous articles)
Systemic Family Solutions (numerous articles)
Australian & New Zealand Journal of Family Therapy "Family Constellation - A Therapy Beyond Words"
"The Knowing Field"
Dissertations and Papers
THERAPY IN THE NEW MILLENIUM: New Sciences and Their Application to Therapy. Effectiveness of Systemic Family Constellations. by Galina K. Thomas
Videos and Podcasts
Hellinger Family Constellation Amrita on Youtube